Today I want to end our conversation on “letting go.” As
always, I’ve been humbled by the messages of encouragement and affirmation from
those who follow the blog and have taken the time to let me know how they’ve
enjoyed it. I simply respond by saying, “If God can use my little ol' raggedy
life and the lessons I’ve learned along the way to help someone else, be my
guest!” Again, you’re always invited to post a comment here and hopefully
create a dialogue with others, beause I believe we are stronger and wiser together
than we are apart.
Over the past week I’ve shared my curiosity and thoughts
surrounding the notion, “Let Go and Let
God.” I’ve heard this saying most of my life (primarily in Christian
circles, although it has become more universal in recent years), therefore I accepted it
at face value without much thought or consideration. However, as I’ve begun to
live a more mindful life, one that is awake and aware, I have begun to give
more thought and attention to the clichés I previously took for granted. Such
is the case with the adage, “Let Go and Let God.”
What does “Let Go” really mean, and furthermore, how can it
be accomplished? I’ve lifted many areas that I think overwhelmingly confront us
in this crazy, busy, complicated, hurried life we live (if you haven’t read the
past several posts, please do; I think they’ll help you). However, today I sum
it all up in one word, control.
If we are to let God be God; if we are to embrace the
miraculous, the joyous, the spontaneous, the healing, the reconciling, the
beautiful, and the loving (better known, collectively, as God), we must learn to
let go and primarily to let go of control.
This, again, is one of the great paradoxes of life. Are we
to be unmotivated, lazy, passive, dependent, inactive or unengaged in our own
lives? I would resoundingly say “NO!” In
fact, I believe we are co-creators with God, meaning God invites and in many ways requires our
participation. God has given us great depths of resources within the world as well as our very soul,
thereby it’s incumbent upon us to tap into that potential and live a life that is authentically
meaningful and powerful. Nevertheless, in the great scope of things, we must
surrender control, and trust that God/the Universe knows what’s best, not only
for us, but for others as well.
During the summer I offered a post entitled, “Go with the
Flow.” For more, you can look to that post, however, here, I want to simply remind
us that in order to receive God’s best, we have to surrender our best. In other
words, God can dream a dream for us, bigger than we can dream for ourselves.
So, in the midst of planning and organizing, please leave some room for
God. Please be awake and aware to what you’re feeling and hearing, so that when
the Spirit moves you’ll be flexible and nimble, ready to make the shift.
No doubt, letting go of control can be scary, but scary is where faith
resides. See, we can’t call it faith if there’s no element of uncertainty,
vulnerability and risk. If you have it all figured out, with no room for
mystery and discovery, then call what you do something else, because it’s not
faith. Faith can be scary, risky and even heart wrenching, but the seeds of our
faith always reaps a harvest of God’s best. The investment of letting go, renders the return of letting God.
Though I’ve learned this within my own life planning, the most
challenging application of this lesson has been in my relationships with
others. I had to come to the realization that everyone has a journey…. a
uniquely individualized course of study, and just because I wanted someone to
change or be different, didn’t mean they were ready to and in fact didn’t even
mean they needed to. Similarly, by both vocation and calling I am an academic,
a teacher, preacher, life coach, and spiritual adviser. However, I’ve learned (and
am still learning) how to balance these core attributes of who I am with the requirements of healthy interpersonal personal relationships. Meaning, sometimes the people in my life just need a
friend, coworker, cousin, son, lover, or brother ……… and not Ivanlya Vanzant! Hahaha! I’m learning how to
allow people to “be” and simply lead by example, and not by decree. I’ve
learned (and am still learning) how to allow God to use my presence and who I
am to speak, rather than my trying to “fix” everyone’s problems.
So, I encourage you to do a gut check! Internally, are you
tied in knots? Do you feel frustrated, anxious, fearful or angry? If so, pay
attention and feel. These emotions
are good indicators that there are areas of life for which you need to
relinquish control. Intellectually concede to this point, commit to a life free
of manipulation and control of others, and emotionally rid yourself of control’s presence (this can be done
through yoga, meditation, prayer, exercise, counseling, etc….. you can look to
an earlier post where I discuss my own meditation practice for some helpful
hints). Because….
This
is not the end of your story. Your best days are not behind you; they are ahead
of you. Know that every
detail of your path can’t be planned, so let go of the anxiety of trying to do
so. Likewise, know that other folk are, too, on their own journey; so don’t misconstrue
helpfulness with a veiled attempt to
manipulate and control their decisions and life choices. Finally, know that surrender is a daily commitment and act
of meditation/worship. So, learn how to “be” and ultimatley led to all of the
#bigthingscoming.
NOTE: If you’re new to the site it might be helpful to read the
first (introductory) post. Also, feel free to post your questions or comments
here and you can always reach out to me on Twitter @raycjordan using the hash
tag #bigthingscoming.
(Copyright,
2013, Ray Jordan)